In striving for balance in life, we must take into consideration 3 important areas of ourselves, the health of our physical bodies, the growth of knowledge for our minds, and the complexity of our inner wellness. Focusing on one area above another makes it much harder to achieve a state of flow in which happiness is the most important endeavor. Unfortunately, adults tend to get caught up in a cycle of work, eat and sleep to then awake and do it all over again the next day. Having work take up a big chunk of time makes it difficult to fit in things like going to the gym and getting a good night sleep, or taking time for introspection and meditation, or taking a class on something to help grow your knowledge on a particular field. In not being able to take care of your life, living becomes survival and happiness becomes harder to achieve.
Unfortunately, our current school system is helping us raise children that fall into the same pattern. It reinforces the idea of learning as a mean to get a job to become part of that societal template. Because of this more and more people each day are in search for alternative ways to teach their kids and have them grow to be well rounded individuals. For us at Project: KAring, assisting in this search has become top priority. Causing a change in the educational system might not be an easy task but bridging the gap between those that offer alternatives and those looking for them is totally doable. It is not one person’s job to change the system, it takes a village or a world that is open to raising a generation with the right tools to achieve a life of happiness.
Focusing on children is the most important part of our mission, this is because learning the tools for balance in life are imperative from a young age. The earlier things are learned the more fluid the outcome is, and it starts preparing future adults for a life based on living instead of surviving. Focusing on these 3 main areas, body, mind and soul, with equal intention can allow for more understanding of who they are and what makes them tick. In understanding themselves they can then make educated decisions on the type of life they wish for and how to achieve it without falling into survival mode.
Learning about their physical bodies is not a straight forward issue. We are all very different each body reacts differently to certain types of food, and each body has different needs based on the level of activity. Learning about feeding the body for optimal affect can help children to grow with an innate ability to do what is necessary to stay healthy. Exploring physical activity can also help achieve organic movement. Using our muscles and keeping the heart healthy doesn’t necessarily have to equal going to the gym. Exploring thing like sports, dance, hikes and other forms of physical activity can teach ways to incorporate exercise as a way of living life and without it turning into something else that “has to” be done.
Educating their minds or acquiring knowledge in ways that teaches them to crave it rather than dread it can create a future in which when they want to accomplish something, looking into learning opportunities can be satisfying and rewarding. The mind is always growing and changing and tools for learning can help easily adapt. Emotions are also a product of the mind and are more easily manageable with the right tools. In learning how to deal with ever arising feelings can be the difference between high stress and manageable stress, and therefore important for balance.
Looking into themselves past the mind, thoughts and feelings, is also very important, as only if we truly know ourselves can we create a world in which we thrive. Finding a practice in which they can experience quieting their minds and reaching within themselves can be beneficial for an ease in dealing with challenging situation, as well as achieving daily peace. Connecting this practice with our bodies and mind can bring everything together for true balance.
In choosing how your child learns about each arena or what practices will work best for them, using your parental intuition and not being afraid to try new things can be the easiest route to take. Parenting can sometimes feel like trial by fire but just doing your best on every decision and just adjusting if any decision turns out to not be a good fit can take some of the weight off. Being a parent is just part of our experience, and if we choose to enjoy it, our children will feel it and flow along with us. Teaching your kids to balance will inherently cause an organic balance within you, the parent, as well, helping you grow together and experience life more freely.